Post by Keith on May 23, 2007 20:04:37 GMT -8
Though this is slightly different than having an affair, it's in the same context which can be applied in this situation about the wife having an extramarital affair with another person. There are plenty of factors that contributes to a wife's infidelity. Keep in mind that the brains of both males and females are wired differently. Which males focusing more on logical and rationalization and females focusing more on emotions and feelings. Logical and emotions have been and will be at odds with each other.
The big reason mainly focuses on emotions. My uncle's ex-wife is one of these cases. I don't really know much about what's going on because I tend to stay out of such things as that. But my mom overhears stuff even though she doesn't want to when she's dropping her neice off at her mother's work place. Before the divorce was finalized, she was seeing a man who happens to still be married with children. However the fact that he's still married is very much besides the point.
With my uncle, he's the type that's out to make a quick buck. The type that wants to take the "quick" way out because it's "easy" and doesn't learn his lesson. My uncle doesn't really pay that much attention and most of the time he can be pretty full of it. Even he gets on my nerves sometimes. He's focused on doing all sorts of oddjobs that he really doesn't pay attention to his wife's wants and needs. Keep in mind my aunt's no saint either due to the inner circle of friends she hangs out with and they're not that great either.
Still he didn't listen to her much and he tended to do things half-way or half-baked. In most marriages that's a sign of the wife going to see someone else and have and/or possibly wanting to have a divorce of differences. Emotionally, the wife will feel belittled which is not good. She's going to feel very alienated which is obvious where that's going to lead. In that predicament, she's going to get into an affair with another guy. Doesn't matter if the guy is married or seeing someone else. All that matters to the woman is that she feels wanted, needed, and appreciated.
My mom inquired to my aunt about seeing that married man. She replied to my mom that he listens to her. Which is very understandable. But in all honestly, my aunt is searching the wrong places. Because if you do that you're doing the same thing that will tear up marriages and relationships. It's pretty much selfish on the married woman's part. But you can't really put all the blame on the married women even though she made that choice to have an affair. There's all sorts of blame to hand out with various parties being at fault which most of the time it's the husband who's at fault.
But my aunt had her reasons for seeing that other guy. It's the same of why some married women get into extramarital affairs.
For married men who love their wives, if you don't want to risk your wife having an affair that would inevitably tear up the family in the future you have to do these following things:
1. Spice up the marriage. You can spice up marriage with all sorts of things such as activities, dates, etc. Keep things exciting. Also lack of sex can cause a spouse to seek an extra-marital affair.
2. Listen to your wife. I highly doubt your wife would appreciate being ignored as if she was talking to a steel wall or something. Not listening is one of the biggest reasons a spouse will seek an affair. When your wife speaks to you, don't blow her off.
3. Make your wife feel appreciated. Guess where an unappreciated spouse is going to go to? She's going to have an affair with someone that'll seem to appreciate her whether he means it or not.
4. Pay attention. This is the most important thing to do. You have to pay attention to things. If your wife is not getting enough attention which envelopes over the three other reasons above, chances are that she's going to have an affair with somebody.
Of course they are just a few reasons from many other reasons, those are the most notable.
Marriages are constantly hard work on the parts of both spouses. When two people get married, it's a commitment and an investment of time. It's pretty much "equal." As a husband, if you're not pulling your weight in a marriage, your wife is probably going to cheat on you. If you can't detect any signs on how your wife feels that she's belittled, ignored, or under appreciated, not only will she cheat on you, but kiss your marriage goodbye.
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The big reason mainly focuses on emotions. My uncle's ex-wife is one of these cases. I don't really know much about what's going on because I tend to stay out of such things as that. But my mom overhears stuff even though she doesn't want to when she's dropping her neice off at her mother's work place. Before the divorce was finalized, she was seeing a man who happens to still be married with children. However the fact that he's still married is very much besides the point.
With my uncle, he's the type that's out to make a quick buck. The type that wants to take the "quick" way out because it's "easy" and doesn't learn his lesson. My uncle doesn't really pay that much attention and most of the time he can be pretty full of it. Even he gets on my nerves sometimes. He's focused on doing all sorts of oddjobs that he really doesn't pay attention to his wife's wants and needs. Keep in mind my aunt's no saint either due to the inner circle of friends she hangs out with and they're not that great either.
Still he didn't listen to her much and he tended to do things half-way or half-baked. In most marriages that's a sign of the wife going to see someone else and have and/or possibly wanting to have a divorce of differences. Emotionally, the wife will feel belittled which is not good. She's going to feel very alienated which is obvious where that's going to lead. In that predicament, she's going to get into an affair with another guy. Doesn't matter if the guy is married or seeing someone else. All that matters to the woman is that she feels wanted, needed, and appreciated.
My mom inquired to my aunt about seeing that married man. She replied to my mom that he listens to her. Which is very understandable. But in all honestly, my aunt is searching the wrong places. Because if you do that you're doing the same thing that will tear up marriages and relationships. It's pretty much selfish on the married woman's part. But you can't really put all the blame on the married women even though she made that choice to have an affair. There's all sorts of blame to hand out with various parties being at fault which most of the time it's the husband who's at fault.
But my aunt had her reasons for seeing that other guy. It's the same of why some married women get into extramarital affairs.
For married men who love their wives, if you don't want to risk your wife having an affair that would inevitably tear up the family in the future you have to do these following things:
1. Spice up the marriage. You can spice up marriage with all sorts of things such as activities, dates, etc. Keep things exciting. Also lack of sex can cause a spouse to seek an extra-marital affair.
2. Listen to your wife. I highly doubt your wife would appreciate being ignored as if she was talking to a steel wall or something. Not listening is one of the biggest reasons a spouse will seek an affair. When your wife speaks to you, don't blow her off.
3. Make your wife feel appreciated. Guess where an unappreciated spouse is going to go to? She's going to have an affair with someone that'll seem to appreciate her whether he means it or not.
4. Pay attention. This is the most important thing to do. You have to pay attention to things. If your wife is not getting enough attention which envelopes over the three other reasons above, chances are that she's going to have an affair with somebody.
Of course they are just a few reasons from many other reasons, those are the most notable.
Marriages are constantly hard work on the parts of both spouses. When two people get married, it's a commitment and an investment of time. It's pretty much "equal." As a husband, if you're not pulling your weight in a marriage, your wife is probably going to cheat on you. If you can't detect any signs on how your wife feels that she's belittled, ignored, or under appreciated, not only will she cheat on you, but kiss your marriage goodbye.
www.helium.com/tm/241391/though-slightly-different-having