Post by Keith on Jun 29, 2007 16:23:09 GMT -8
The answer is yes only by biological science. But there are many things with blood that go beyond science. In all other aspects, I really not believe that blood is 'thicker' than water. Due to events in my life, I came to that sad revelation that blood isn't really thicker than water. Just because you're related to someone by blood does it mean that s/he will come when you need them the most.
For example my dad only cared about money. But I have no idea if he is still alive nor had he changed at all. Least to say I had never met him before in my entire life. A few months after I was born, my father just divorced my mother and just left us.
It was shortly after the end of the Vietnam War where my mother and her family were one of many living in the many refugee camps across the United States. My mother was one of few chosen to be a housekeeper for this wealthy businessman. The businessman adopted my mom to be one of his daughters since they didn't have any children of their own. My dad fought out about my mom and went after her. He was trying to get into the man's fortune. When he found out that my mom had nothing, he left.
Unfortunately you can't pick your biological father. But you can pick who you want to acknowledge as a father figure. So far, I've acknowledged nobody as a father figure at all. In short, I highly doubt my biological father would pull through for me if and when I need him. It's been twenty-five years since I was born. I've managed without him nor a father figure, I can still manage without.
Sadly that's not the only example. There is the family on my grandmother's side, mainly her sister's family that are pretty conceited. They're pretty much 'elitist' of the sort. Due to culture, everybody else had to suffer for they could 'benefit' and it somewhat carried on until they all immigrated to the United States after the Vietnam War. They benefited because of us and they won't acknowledge it. If they did, they'd probably say that they deserve it because they're 'higher' than us.
In the past, they asked my mom for money. However, my mom would refuse because she was saving it for me. Then my grandmother would ask for money. And my mom would give my grandmother money. In turn, my grandmother gave the money to those very same relatives that asked my mom. My grandmother's naivety was a major loophole for my relatives. I didn't know about it until recently. When I found out, I was a pretty unhappy camper. My mom wasn't able to help me out much because of them.
Now that my mom hardly has anything, they basically left her alone. They don't call to see how she's doing. They only call if they 'need' her or something. One of my uncles have started to do very well for himself and those same relatives are talking to him now. In the past, they wouldn't talk to him. And now, they're talking to him. To me, that's pretty downright predatory on their part. If my uncle wasn't doing well, they wouldn't be talking to him.
If I hit the lottery and won a few million dollars, I know I'd be getting phonecalls from them the next day.
It goes to the character of such people. I have another uncle that wants ownership of the house. He can be a greedy individual. But mainly he's influenced by his wife. If he got ownership, he could kick my mom and I out. And he would. So I really can't count on him much. Then again, I can't count on my own family much either.
I have a friend in Philadelphia that's going through the same thing. She doesn't get any phonecalls or emails from her family just to say hello nor ask how she's doing. They only talk when they 'need' her for something.
Even though you're related by blood, it doesn't mean you have to acknowledge them as family. So far when I needed somebody for advice, guidance, and other things, my friends rushed to the rescue. My bond with my friends seemed to much stronger than the bloodties with my own family.
In short, blood isn't necessarily thicker than water. There are many things in life that go well beyond blood. Keep in mind that your own family members could be some of the most predatory people in the world. Whenever I'm in need, I know not to lean on my family.
You could choose to pull through for your family. A friend of mine said this, you can pull through for them when they 'need' you. But tell them that it's not going to happen overnight.
www.helium.com/tm/416406/answer-biological-science-there
For example my dad only cared about money. But I have no idea if he is still alive nor had he changed at all. Least to say I had never met him before in my entire life. A few months after I was born, my father just divorced my mother and just left us.
It was shortly after the end of the Vietnam War where my mother and her family were one of many living in the many refugee camps across the United States. My mother was one of few chosen to be a housekeeper for this wealthy businessman. The businessman adopted my mom to be one of his daughters since they didn't have any children of their own. My dad fought out about my mom and went after her. He was trying to get into the man's fortune. When he found out that my mom had nothing, he left.
Unfortunately you can't pick your biological father. But you can pick who you want to acknowledge as a father figure. So far, I've acknowledged nobody as a father figure at all. In short, I highly doubt my biological father would pull through for me if and when I need him. It's been twenty-five years since I was born. I've managed without him nor a father figure, I can still manage without.
Sadly that's not the only example. There is the family on my grandmother's side, mainly her sister's family that are pretty conceited. They're pretty much 'elitist' of the sort. Due to culture, everybody else had to suffer for they could 'benefit' and it somewhat carried on until they all immigrated to the United States after the Vietnam War. They benefited because of us and they won't acknowledge it. If they did, they'd probably say that they deserve it because they're 'higher' than us.
In the past, they asked my mom for money. However, my mom would refuse because she was saving it for me. Then my grandmother would ask for money. And my mom would give my grandmother money. In turn, my grandmother gave the money to those very same relatives that asked my mom. My grandmother's naivety was a major loophole for my relatives. I didn't know about it until recently. When I found out, I was a pretty unhappy camper. My mom wasn't able to help me out much because of them.
Now that my mom hardly has anything, they basically left her alone. They don't call to see how she's doing. They only call if they 'need' her or something. One of my uncles have started to do very well for himself and those same relatives are talking to him now. In the past, they wouldn't talk to him. And now, they're talking to him. To me, that's pretty downright predatory on their part. If my uncle wasn't doing well, they wouldn't be talking to him.
If I hit the lottery and won a few million dollars, I know I'd be getting phonecalls from them the next day.
It goes to the character of such people. I have another uncle that wants ownership of the house. He can be a greedy individual. But mainly he's influenced by his wife. If he got ownership, he could kick my mom and I out. And he would. So I really can't count on him much. Then again, I can't count on my own family much either.
I have a friend in Philadelphia that's going through the same thing. She doesn't get any phonecalls or emails from her family just to say hello nor ask how she's doing. They only talk when they 'need' her for something.
Even though you're related by blood, it doesn't mean you have to acknowledge them as family. So far when I needed somebody for advice, guidance, and other things, my friends rushed to the rescue. My bond with my friends seemed to much stronger than the bloodties with my own family.
In short, blood isn't necessarily thicker than water. There are many things in life that go well beyond blood. Keep in mind that your own family members could be some of the most predatory people in the world. Whenever I'm in need, I know not to lean on my family.
You could choose to pull through for your family. A friend of mine said this, you can pull through for them when they 'need' you. But tell them that it's not going to happen overnight.
www.helium.com/tm/416406/answer-biological-science-there